Day In The Life: Construction Worker

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The days I spent at the new UT Southwestern hospital, was of no coinsidence, a location to a story I wrote a while back. The route from the trucking and distrubution industry of Dallas on Mockingbird Rd. through the medical district, to the infamous gun range. Of course I was soaking in all I could in the nine short months I was there.

Origanally, the “Day In The Life” is a program that was directed to the nurses, to train them into action, by a staged real life scenerio. Taking adantage of the time I could while real patients were not there. I wanted to film this and take pictures. I could only remain mysterious, for the jobs they were paying me for, still needed to get taken care of.

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The Building

The architecual design is laid out in modern use for the doctors and nurses. From the computer equipment, to the advanced air conditioning system, and to the very building itself.

One of the medical monitoring computers is roughly about $15,000 or more. They can allow the patient to move freely in and out of the room if desired, while being monitored wirelessly. They have a pluther of up to date machines for convenience of the patient.

The sohphisticated air system relies on basic airflow in which is filtered by numerous machines to put fourth clean air throughout the building. A very expensive process only with the equipment. The process is also designed to save energy.

The building is self sufficient. With it’s own power plant. Designed to supply its own water, and withstand a tornado. The structures purpose is to help the medical staff move more efficiently for it’s patients.

Construction Worker

Usually I’m multitasking in everything I do. This particular project had my dopamine running. Taking the job I knew I had some hard work ahead. The structure, some of the eletrical lines and windows were already established before I came. I have already done this for another building on Pearl Street in Dallas. I have worked with/on heavy equipment, leveling, concrete, heavy tools, blueprints, general labor, on commercial and residential projects. I like projects of any kind within my knowledge and more challenging. I’ll be very honest with you… I don’t like to sit around not getting paid. I work hard and that’s it.

When I first got to the building I felt like a rock star. A lot of  “daps” and high fives were giving. You know what? Pretty much the whole time was like that, but I still did the work and I took it seriously. Most guys there did.

Note to all lazy people: If you keep busy, time goes by faster.

The building is a beautiful work of art. I’m very proud and appreciate the oppurtunity to be a part of it. I would add much more to the story, for I don’t want to take away from what I was there to do. I wanted to shed light on the hard work construction workers do. Not only that, but I met some good guys I respected. The work speaks for itself.

Pictures tell a lot of the story. Here are a few.

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Each line to one room. Cut with concrete chipper. Without drywall.

 

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Yes, Kids Need Their Father Pt. II

IMG_0709It is a known fact that absentee fathers, in most cases, are prone to give their kids a life of poverty and hardships. In this busy world we live in providing and being present are two different perspectives.  Modern times have given us abundance of resources to educate parents, as well as little ones, for the most important reason: your kid’s progress.

First and foremost, I’m a proud father of one, Raiden Luke Frysinger. He is presently 9 years old, and in third grade.  He’s practiced karate, and the art of imagination.

My personal experience with this issue, is one that is almost impeccable to tell. From day 1, I was not ready, I did not have all of my life together. I was also dealing with a past mistake I consistently had to pay for, which will go without mentioning (for now). My son will.

Luckily I was able to obtain a good job, by my father, that helped clean up my life a bit.  I worked 12 hour days, 4 nights a week for a year and half, until I received a good pay advance. From then, I had beautiful days in spending time with  “mi numero uno”.

This is a real personal experience that I don’t share with too many people, but I will share, because it is important in my life’s progress. While at a friend’s house in the backyard for a barbecue, a beehive suddenly fell to the ground while my ex-wife was holding our son. Without a second thought , heroic like, I pulled them inside to protect him and her; fearing any allergic reaction scenarios. Trying to dispose of the beehive, and being in a panic, my son felt the tension and reached for me; to see if I was alright. One of two things happened. It might sound small, but I had a weird occurrence in what I call, an imprint, as they do exist. The other, was this exact situation that changed my life. I grew more proud. It is my opinion that any man is capable of this whether he is the biological father or not.

Providing doesn’t substitute the physical bond you have with your young, that has to start from day 1. This could potentially disrupt your child’s growth, depending on the particular child. To many parents it is very hurtful to have your kid resent you because you missed out on an important event, sometimes for no good reason.

This should, and already present a balance, maybe an epiphany, to be stern, to have more patience. This can also be compared to unconditional love.

Because we all know it’s hard to distinguish if they are using their emotions to feed you a guilt trip. This is already natural for your kid.

Just imagine for a second our soldiers that sacrifice their time away from home not being able to deal with this struggle. Imagine that one day he/she is going to grow up, having to learn some things on their own, when even the dreaded/celebrated day they move out of the house. Did their teachers/elders provide them with the tools they need to survive? Of course they did. Did their parents? Hopefully. For money doesn’t always suffice a stable living situation, or overcome an obstacle. If you are a parent, you should kinda understand this struggle.

Not everybody has had their father or mother in their life by tragedy, or unfortunately have chosen not to be a part or committed suicide. In some instances this might be an excuse to some that have learned to adapt. Where others have failed to yield in strength, many have overcome.

(For instance this story below when the tables are turned. Think about it. Money, a good life, turned in an instant, but the bond was broken and some sort of resentment took over. The father was not able to overcome. And if I was in his shoes, as tough as he was in Vietnam, was not able to deal with his son’s untimely death. I wouldn’t know what the purpose of life would be in that situation. I couldn’t imagine life without my son. I hope this story has an impact. I’m glad that I had the privilege of knowing these two.)

 

Go Team FincKe

Howard and James'  '68 Chevy

Howard and James’ ’68 Chevy

Their is a true story of a kid that grew up in Coppell, TX named James Fincke. In his teen years, he worked at a B.M.X shop repairing bicycle spokes at just 15 years old. Funny how he got all the local kids on a B.M.X trend around the town. His parents ran an auto interior shop, that mostly repaired Porsche seating, because their dealership did not have their own repair shop. In which the Fincke family took advantage of. He would always ride his Powerlite bike that had custom flamed pads he made with his parent’s interior products.

Years passed and time moved on. Kids gave up on their dreams of becoming professional B.M.X riders. James relied on the closest source of income, working back with his dad Howard, after a few failed career paths.

One night, on Christmas Day, he was driving with his girlfriend on the way to return a movie. His car stalled while pulling a u-turn, and ended up in the middle of the road. Not a few moments later his car was struck by an SUV at high-speed.

James’ insides had given up on him, but not before trying to pull his girlfriend out of the car that caught fire. Both did not survive.

The heartbreaking events were far too hard to bear for Howard. He went through complete devastation. His business started failing and their was no try, you could see it in his eyes.

Howard finally gave in to underlining health issues and was no doubt to a broken heart. Howard passed away, just 6 years later… Christmas Day, 2005. The world lost a good father, also a Vietnam Veteran, and the best son, also NON-Professional Greatest B.M.X Rider, ever. You are still missed.

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Roxanne and James

Oh Yeah Fathers

Yes, kids need their father… for discipline, to protect, to look up to, to create with, teach and learn patience from. They need outlets that maybe one partner doesn’t perceive, or recognize. Kids need fatherly love, a father’s sense of humor. Young ones need a father’s story, rooted to their dad’s life experiences. They need their pride and confidence to say “That’s my dad.”  Oh Yes, Kids Need Their Fathers…and Fathers Need Their Kids.

Author’s note: This is to all the parents and kiddos dealing with divorce. Please don’t ever put the innocent ones in the middle. This teaches them resentment. Unconditional love is a beautiful thing.

The author is still  thankfully alive and sober in Irving, TX

The author is still thankfully alive and sober in Irving, TX. Without his sunshine.

A Place At The Table

In theaters, available on iTunes and On Demand a place at the table

A Place At The Table

Fifty million people in the U.S.—one in four children—don’t know where their next meal is coming from. Directors Kristi Jacobson and Lori Silverbush examine the issue of hunger in America through the lens of three people struggling with food insecurity: Barbie, a single Philadelphia mother who grew up in poverty and is trying to provide a better life for her two kids; Rosie, a Colorado fifth-grader who often has to depend on friends and neighbors to feed her and has trouble concentrating in school; and Tremonica, a Mississippi second-grader whose asthma and health issues are exacerbated by the largely empty calories her hardworking mother can afford.

Ultimately, A Place at the Table shows us how hunger poses serious economic, social and cultural implications for our nation, and that it could be solved once and for all, if the American public decides — as they have in the past — that making healthy food available and affordable is in the best interest of us all.

For the first 100,000 tickets, downloads or book purchased , Plum Organics will donate one essential nutrition pouch to a baby or toddler.

Personal Funding: Mr. Brent Frysinger for No Kid Hungry

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Yes, Kids Need Their Father Pt. I

Life walkThe importance of childhood development is having a stable mother and father. The alteration in a Divorce/Separation can lead to tragic events, it can turn epic, devastate a family and completely turns a parent/child progress upside down. The natural progression in your child’s life should be the main focus for the most important years to when they pursue their education. Many studies have been done on the absence of fathers, in which put a stigma on fatherhood. Either way, yes, kids need their mother, and yes, kids need their father.

Divorce, Separation, And Wasted Time

Lets face it, as we move along in today’s society, their is an all time high in the number of divorces in this country. About 41 percent of all marriages end in divorce. This rift ultimately has an impact on child development. This is a tear between child and parent relations. Children are forced to live in two different households not understanding why. The only way to have one set of rules and raise them unconditionally, is to stay on good terms between the separated partners. This can be a tad bit tricky. Certain situations can turn bitter between the mom and dad. Some turn to possession, lash out in violence, take away kids from either sex, say ugly things, and completely lose their state of mind. Others even suicide. This has massive ripples for years. It’s consequence after all this can be prevented. The consequence: is the impact on your kids and the useless time making things worse.

Some parents made a decision and felt it was in their better interest to separate from the other. Studies have shown that it is better to do it while the children are young. These studies believe that the younger the children are, it is better to avoid any resentments, and deter overwhelment do to change, than to pursue it at an older age. This allows children to adapt and move on. If you haven’t already done so, or left that child custody case pending, it’s wise to go ahead and get that part over with too.

The Good Ol’ Days

The natural progression of your child’s life from birth to 6 years old and when they approach kindergarten, are the most important. Throughout this time, you were primarily focused on your newborn son or daughter. These times are critical for you and your young’s life for one reason: your identity between each other. The fact you were there in your child’s presence alone, is significant.

While he/she is learning to walk, talk, learning their abc’s and 123’s, they are also learning discipline. They are learning this from both parents. It is found in a study from a Fragile Families and Child Well Being Study, children born to single mothers show higher level of aggressive behavior than that of those children born to married mothers. Multi-partners showed negative results as well.

Before you know it, your kids have reached the beginning of their long career in education. Having these unnatural occurences, having delivered a lot of time away from even the smallest impact on potty training could damper your child’s progression. Missing time on positive energy, or achievements, is just the many ways to hinder a child’s natural form of development and education.

As they reach adoloences, time at the dinner table, according to Ikramullah, E., Manlove, J., Cui, C., & Moore, K. A. (2009). Parents matter: The role of parents in teens’ decisions about sex. Washington, D.C.: Child Trends, could be a determining factor on their sexual active status. Not to mention this is an old parenting technique to ground your kids, teach them responsibility or even feed them a guilt trip to make sure they are at the dinner table every night. This small alteration, past, present or future, can damage the progress, even help in their fight against their turn for the worse into crime, not just on their sexual needs.

The training cycle is never-ending. It travels well beyond their teen years and even into their early 20’s. A lot of their teachers took on these rolls too, having taken the resposibility of your child’s future. Away from school it is another story, their are chores to be done, homework to be finished, dinner time, and a night-time to be fulfilled. The raising of your kids and their steps through life are very fragile. These small, constant progressions can easily be shaken if either parent is out of the picture.

The War On Fatherhood

I Inter-spousal domestic violence can be committed by both sexes. In some situations, it is a small aspect of family violence. False abuse allegations vilify mostly the men in our society, leaving the father as victim. These situations serve well in successful attempts to remove fathers from the lives of our children. These results below show a broad aspect of fatherless children.

  • 79.6% of custodial mothers receive a support award
  • 29.9% of custodial fathers receive a support award.
  • 46.9% of non-custodial mothers totally default on support.
  • 26.9% of non-custodial fathers totally default on support.
  • 20.0% of non-custodial mothers pay support at some level
  • 61.0% of non-custodial fathers pay support at some level
  • 66.2% of single custodial mothers work less than full-time.
  • 10.2% of single custodial fathers work less than full-time.
  • 7.0% of single custodial mothers work more than 44 hours weekly.
  • 24.5% of single custodial fathers work more that 44 hours weekly.
  • 46.2% of single custodial mothers receive public assistance.
  • 20.8% of single custodial fathers receive public assistance.

CHILDREN FROM SINGLE-MOTHER FAMILIES

Single-Mother Family Two Parent Family Relative Odds1
Problem % (n)2 % (n)2
Hyperactivity 15.6 (69,480) 9.6 (221,573) 1.74
Conduct disorder 17.2 (73,659) 8.1 (180,786) 2.36
Emotional disorder 15.0 (67,205) 7.5 (173,714) 2.18
One or more behaviour problems 31.7 (137,460) 18.7 (418,894) 2.02
Repeated a grade 3 11.2 (36,288) 4.7 (78,026) 2.56
Current school problems 3 5.8 (18,862) 2.7 (46,120) 2.22
Social impairment 6.1 (25,105) 2.5 (51,344) 2.53
One or more total problems 3 40.6 (128,895) 23.6 (381,715) 2.21

V/H/S Movie

When a group of petty criminals is hired by a mysterious party to retrieve a rare piece of found footage from a rundown house in the middle of nowhere, they soon realize that the job isn’t going to be as easy as they thought. In the living room, a lifeless body holds court before a hub of old television sets, surrounded by stacks upon stacks of VHS tapes. As they search for the right one, they are treated to a seemingly endless number of horrifying videos, each stranger than the last.

via V/H/S.

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ONE AT The Vans Warped Tour

ONE Members teamed up once again for the fight against extreme Poverty/AIDS/Hunger with the Vans Warped Tour, a Live Nation event, at the GEXA Energy Pavilion in Dallas, TX on July 3rd, 2012.

The goal was to reach 455 signatures, which was not met. It was rather low for the event. Making it’s presents among the younger generation can always be ever challenging. Their were people who held their interest in the idea and a lot of yes’ for volunteering.

Even though the goal fell short, it still impelled ‘Warped Tourians” and captivated their minds with a sublime banner, picture for the online 2015 Quilt in the fight against aids, and dedicated ONE Members. The ONE Campaign will proudly support the primary mission: To fight for the lives of extreme poverty.

Left to Right: Rusty Stickler, Elizabeth Brito, Brent Frysinger, and Derriq Maq

A Night With Leymah Gbowee: Nobel Peace Prize Laureate

   A lecture from Nobel Peace Prize winner Leymah Gbowee, was held in Dallas, TX at the SMU Campass in the Hughes – Trigg Student Center Theater, on May 23, 2012. She is a very formidable activist, humanitarian, author, and mother.

   Ms. Gbowee is the author of her book, Mighty Be Our Powers, an empowering compile of memoirs of her life events in Liberia. Mighty Be Our Powers is co-authored by Carol Mithers, published by Beast Books.

   Members from PBS, and ONE Campaign were present at the event, presented by World Affairs Council DFW. Numerous people were at attention to hear such a powerful voice recap the life experiences and the torments she had wakened to daily in Africa.

   “Anger is a poison for change” and “If your hungry….walk, If your thirsty walk for it” were the many quotes that she inspired the audience with. She then went on to tell a story of a boy she saw picking on a young lady, here in America. She asked the boy to come over to her and she gave him a talk on how to treat women. The young lady thanked her.

   It’s always a pleasure to be a part of the phenomenal works of such strong spirits. The event was an ever important foundation for the youths and a new teaching to the adults here in America. Hero’s, as well as heroin’s, are in all shapes and sizes, no matter what color, rich or poor.

   For more on women of Africa please watch Women, War & Peace

ONE Meeting Held at Congresswoman’s Office

    On March 22, 2012 ONE members and Zack McDowell from waterthirst.org, met up at Congresswoman Eddie Bernice Johnson’s office in Dallas, TX  for World Water Day, to hold discussions on the water and poverty issue.

It opened with Kyle Talkington discussing ONE’s objectives. A presentation of the ONE’s foundation and work through the years. Zack McDowell from waterthirst.org then played a short documentary of the work that was currently underway in Kenya, Africa. He mentioned a girl he met named Marry, while on his trip there, captured at the end of the clip.

It was then that Zack McDowell was able to give a more descriptive objective of the irrigation project. The idea  is to make it easier, to take the man hours off of the people of Africa, and produce access to easier water resources. The water comes from a spring, through limestone off the mountains, in which the water is free from contamination.

It was a privilege to be able to attend the meeting. The issues for the ONE Campaign, to reach out to more members. The ONE Campaign has an alliance in these issues with waterthirst.org, to unite a global cause, and to bring awareness. Please feel free to watch this remarkable video at zackmcdowell.com/water-thirst–naomis-village .

Coffee and Fair Trade

     I started my interest for the One Campaign simply because I saw a commercial on TV. The project was for “The F Word Famine: The Real Obscenity.” The message was forward and direct…all they asked for was, “your voice”. For some of the greatest voices on this planet, I knew it was the least I could do. I set up my Twitter account  in July of 2011; I followed the One Twitter in October,( three months later) to lend that voice.
     Taking on some important issues from Twitter feeds, the account began to be my Teachers. Educating myself alongside One.org’s blogs and articles. I take in to heart human life with a passion, for which I think the current campaign is very relevant. It’s important to ensure companies report extractions and exchanges for the betterment.
     Recently, I attended my first One demonstration on February 28th at the Opening Bell Coffee House in Dallas, TX. The night consisted of coffee and open mic night. Kyle Talkington opened up with a good introduction. They had set up their booth with a petition list to provide your name and e-mail, voter registration cards, fliers, and wristbands at the front. To when I met up and talked with Kyle and Rustin Stickler. To both, I grew a new found respect for.
     I’m glad I forfeited my time that night, meeting some One members face to face. Seeing the importance, I only wish to dedicate more influence and positive outlooks. One is simple to me, we can think as one, and we can be as one. Peace.