Yes, Kids Need Their Father Pt. I

Life walkThe importance of childhood development is having a stable mother and father. The alteration in a Divorce/Separation can lead to tragic events, it can turn epic, devastate a family and completely turns a parent/child progress upside down. The natural progression in your child’s life should be the main focus for the most important years to when they pursue their education. Many studies have been done on the absence of fathers, in which put a stigma on fatherhood. Either way, yes, kids need their mother, and yes, kids need their father.

Divorce, Separation, And Wasted Time

Lets face it, as we move along in today’s society, their is an all time high in the number of divorces in this country. About 41 percent of all marriages end in divorce. This rift ultimately has an impact on child development. This is a tear between child and parent relations. Children are forced to live in two different households not understanding why. The only way to have one set of rules and raise them unconditionally, is to stay on good terms between the separated partners. This can be a tad bit tricky. Certain situations can turn bitter between the mom and dad. Some turn to possession, lash out in violence, take away kids from either sex, say ugly things, and completely lose their state of mind. Others even suicide. This has massive ripples for years. It’s consequence after all this can be prevented. The consequence: is the impact on your kids and the useless time making things worse.

Some parents made a decision and felt it was in their better interest to separate from the other. Studies have shown that it is better to do it while the children are young. These studies believe that the younger the children are, it is better to avoid any resentments, and deter overwhelment do to change, than to pursue it at an older age. This allows children to adapt and move on. If you haven’t already done so, or left that child custody case pending, it’s wise to go ahead and get that part over with too.

The Good Ol’ Days

The natural progression of your child’s life from birth to 6 years old and when they approach kindergarten, are the most important. Throughout this time, you were primarily focused on your newborn son or daughter. These times are critical for you and your young’s life for one reason: your identity between each other. The fact you were there in your child’s presence alone, is significant.

While he/she is learning to walk, talk, learning their abc’s and 123’s, they are also learning discipline. They are learning this from both parents. It is found in a study from a Fragile Families and Child Well Being Study, children born to single mothers show higher level of aggressive behavior than that of those children born to married mothers. Multi-partners showed negative results as well.

Before you know it, your kids have reached the beginning of their long career in education. Having these unnatural occurences, having delivered a lot of time away from even the smallest impact on potty training could damper your child’s progression. Missing time on positive energy, or achievements, is just the many ways to hinder a child’s natural form of development and education.

As they reach adoloences, time at the dinner table, according to Ikramullah, E., Manlove, J., Cui, C., & Moore, K. A. (2009). Parents matter: The role of parents in teens’ decisions about sex. Washington, D.C.: Child Trends, could be a determining factor on their sexual active status. Not to mention this is an old parenting technique to ground your kids, teach them responsibility or even feed them a guilt trip to make sure they are at the dinner table every night. This small alteration, past, present or future, can damage the progress, even help in their fight against their turn for the worse into crime, not just on their sexual needs.

The training cycle is never-ending. It travels well beyond their teen years and even into their early 20’s. A lot of their teachers took on these rolls too, having taken the resposibility of your child’s future. Away from school it is another story, their are chores to be done, homework to be finished, dinner time, and a night-time to be fulfilled. The raising of your kids and their steps through life are very fragile. These small, constant progressions can easily be shaken if either parent is out of the picture.

The War On Fatherhood

I Inter-spousal domestic violence can be committed by both sexes. In some situations, it is a small aspect of family violence. False abuse allegations vilify mostly the men in our society, leaving the father as victim. These situations serve well in successful attempts to remove fathers from the lives of our children. These results below show a broad aspect of fatherless children.

  • 79.6% of custodial mothers receive a support award
  • 29.9% of custodial fathers receive a support award.
  • 46.9% of non-custodial mothers totally default on support.
  • 26.9% of non-custodial fathers totally default on support.
  • 20.0% of non-custodial mothers pay support at some level
  • 61.0% of non-custodial fathers pay support at some level
  • 66.2% of single custodial mothers work less than full-time.
  • 10.2% of single custodial fathers work less than full-time.
  • 7.0% of single custodial mothers work more than 44 hours weekly.
  • 24.5% of single custodial fathers work more that 44 hours weekly.
  • 46.2% of single custodial mothers receive public assistance.
  • 20.8% of single custodial fathers receive public assistance.

CHILDREN FROM SINGLE-MOTHER FAMILIES

Single-Mother Family Two Parent Family Relative Odds1
Problem % (n)2 % (n)2
Hyperactivity 15.6 (69,480) 9.6 (221,573) 1.74
Conduct disorder 17.2 (73,659) 8.1 (180,786) 2.36
Emotional disorder 15.0 (67,205) 7.5 (173,714) 2.18
One or more behaviour problems 31.7 (137,460) 18.7 (418,894) 2.02
Repeated a grade 3 11.2 (36,288) 4.7 (78,026) 2.56
Current school problems 3 5.8 (18,862) 2.7 (46,120) 2.22
Social impairment 6.1 (25,105) 2.5 (51,344) 2.53
One or more total problems 3 40.6 (128,895) 23.6 (381,715) 2.21
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